<?xml version='1.0' encoding='UTF-8'?><?xml-stylesheet href="http://www.blogger.com/styles/atom.css" type="text/css"?><feed xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom' xmlns:openSearch='http://a9.com/-/spec/opensearchrss/1.0/'><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36045286.post7681714531381980148..comments</id><updated>2007-10-26T19:15:58.106-04:00</updated><title type='text'>Comments on So love is hard And love is tough: Closer, Together</title><link rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#feed' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://nyjlm.blogspot.com/feeds/7681714531381980148/comments/default'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/36045286/7681714531381980148/comments/default'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://nyjlm.blogspot.com/2007/10/closer-together.html'/><author><name>nyjlm</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/16260530430697570709</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email></author><generator version='7.00' uri='http://www.blogger.com'>Blogger</generator><openSearch:totalResults>6</openSearch:totalResults><openSearch:startIndex>1</openSearch:startIndex><openSearch:itemsPerPage>25</openSearch:itemsPerPage><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36045286.post-4822304146480999470</id><published>2007-10-26T19:15:00.000-04:00</published><updated>2007-10-26T19:15:00.000-04:00</updated><title type='text'>Congratulations on passing the exam!  Yay!I also d...</title><content type='html'>Congratulations on passing the exam!  Yay!&lt;BR/&gt;&lt;BR/&gt;I also don't know how to include my husband sometimes in the inner stuff I'm working on.  Part of it is that, even though he's my partner, I don't think it's his job to be my therapist or even to be a main support person when I my PTSD is raging.&lt;BR/&gt;&lt;BR/&gt;Sometimes I forward him letters that I've written to other friends...  with a note that said I want to keep him abreast but that he doesn't need to do anything.&lt;BR/&gt;&lt;BR/&gt;I haven't found a solution yet.</content><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/36045286/7681714531381980148/comments/default/4822304146480999470'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/36045286/7681714531381980148/comments/default/4822304146480999470'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://nyjlm.blogspot.com/2007/10/closer-together.html?showComment=1193440500000#c4822304146480999470' title=''/><author><name>cathy</name><uri>http://growingcurious.typepad.com</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email></author><thr:in-reply-to xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0' href='http://nyjlm.blogspot.com/2007/10/closer-together.html' ref='tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36045286.post-7681714531381980148' source='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/36045286/posts/default/7681714531381980148' type='text/html'/></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36045286.post-489871864585877707</id><published>2007-10-21T19:08:00.000-04:00</published><updated>2007-10-21T19:08:00.000-04:00</updated><title type='text'>Of course you passed!!!! Congrats. And what you wr...</title><content type='html'>Of course you passed!!!! Congrats. And what you wrote- haha, made me giggle. I sometimes think the same thing about Chris, that my high strung nature has rubbed off on his original calm self. But seriously, sweet what you wrote. Nice to read. And what a good thing to say to someone: thank you for loving me. (And now I'll say it to you- thanks for being my blog friend!)</content><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/36045286/7681714531381980148/comments/default/489871864585877707'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/36045286/7681714531381980148/comments/default/489871864585877707'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://nyjlm.blogspot.com/2007/10/closer-together.html?showComment=1193008080000#c489871864585877707' title=''/><author><name>krista</name><uri>http://blog.thesilentk.com</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email></author><thr:in-reply-to xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0' href='http://nyjlm.blogspot.com/2007/10/closer-together.html' ref='tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36045286.post-7681714531381980148' source='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/36045286/posts/default/7681714531381980148' type='text/html'/></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36045286.post-3593074959293606566</id><published>2007-10-19T22:30:00.000-04:00</published><updated>2007-10-19T22:30:00.000-04:00</updated><title type='text'>Congrats on passing the board test!  And good on y...</title><content type='html'>Congrats on passing the board test!  And good on you for sharing the good and the bad.  I've been trying to be more vocal about thanking my husband for stuff, just 'cuz he deserves it, but it's actually been positive reinforcement, and now he does more stuff around the house.</content><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/36045286/7681714531381980148/comments/default/3593074959293606566'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/36045286/7681714531381980148/comments/default/3593074959293606566'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://nyjlm.blogspot.com/2007/10/closer-together.html?showComment=1192847400000#c3593074959293606566' title=''/><author><name>BipolarLawyerCook</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/00718892727028970068</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email></author><thr:in-reply-to xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0' href='http://nyjlm.blogspot.com/2007/10/closer-together.html' ref='tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36045286.post-7681714531381980148' source='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/36045286/posts/default/7681714531381980148' type='text/html'/></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36045286.post-2359538395747526631</id><published>2007-10-19T13:57:00.000-04:00</published><updated>2007-10-19T13:57:00.000-04:00</updated><title type='text'>Hello Nyjlm!I wanted to thank you SOOOO much for a...</title><content type='html'>Hello Nyjlm!&lt;BR/&gt;I wanted to thank you SOOOO much for all the wonderful comments that you left in my blog.&lt;BR/&gt;Reading them has been one of the most beautiful experiences for me this week! You are so generous. I really appreciate every word that you wrote. I will be back here, I can't wait to read everything...you are someone especial.&lt;BR/&gt;Thank you again!!&lt;BR/&gt;Elsita :)</content><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/36045286/7681714531381980148/comments/default/2359538395747526631'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/36045286/7681714531381980148/comments/default/2359538395747526631'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://nyjlm.blogspot.com/2007/10/closer-together.html?showComment=1192816620000#c2359538395747526631' title=''/><author><name>Elsita</name><uri>www.elsita.etsy.com</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email></author><thr:in-reply-to xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0' href='http://nyjlm.blogspot.com/2007/10/closer-together.html' ref='tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36045286.post-7681714531381980148' source='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/36045286/posts/default/7681714531381980148' type='text/html'/></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36045286.post-7908888148357111380</id><published>2007-10-19T12:46:00.000-04:00</published><updated>2007-10-19T12:46:00.000-04:00</updated><title type='text'>Here is what I wrote:http://sunaknit.blogspot.com/...</title><content type='html'>Here is what I wrote:&lt;BR/&gt;&lt;BR/&gt;http://sunaknit.blogspot.com/2007/10/building-up-with-words.html&lt;BR/&gt;&lt;BR/&gt;Thanks for all your encouragement.&lt;BR/&gt;&lt;BR/&gt;And OMSH, heck, we all have our moments of being a person we didn't intend to be. We wouldn't be whole without our shadow sides, I guess.</content><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/36045286/7681714531381980148/comments/default/7908888148357111380'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/36045286/7681714531381980148/comments/default/7908888148357111380'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://nyjlm.blogspot.com/2007/10/closer-together.html?showComment=1192812360000#c7908888148357111380' title=''/><author><name>Suna</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/11946484740596693009</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email></author><thr:in-reply-to xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0' href='http://nyjlm.blogspot.com/2007/10/closer-together.html' ref='tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36045286.post-7681714531381980148' source='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/36045286/posts/default/7681714531381980148' type='text/html'/></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36045286.post-5543920403857857355</id><published>2007-10-19T10:48:00.000-04:00</published><updated>2007-10-19T10:48:00.000-04:00</updated><title type='text'>That was a beautiful, heart-warming tribute.  I fe...</title><content type='html'>That was a beautiful, heart-warming tribute.  I felt the same about Jeff.  I wanted to be the laid back, easy going parent.  I'm not.  I'm fun and loud and hysterical, but when the mood swings the other way?  OUCH.&lt;BR/&gt;&lt;BR/&gt;*sigh*&lt;BR/&gt;&lt;BR/&gt;We are so blessed by our husbands.</content><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/36045286/7681714531381980148/comments/default/5543920403857857355'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/36045286/7681714531381980148/comments/default/5543920403857857355'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://nyjlm.blogspot.com/2007/10/closer-together.html?showComment=1192805280000#c5543920403857857355' title=''/><author><name>OMSH</name><uri>http://ohmystinkinheck.com</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email></author><thr:in-reply-to xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0' href='http://nyjlm.blogspot.com/2007/10/closer-together.html' ref='tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36045286.post-7681714531381980148' source='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/36045286/posts/default/7681714531381980148' type='text/html'/></entry></feed>